I think its important for men to acquire a "personal style" make some thing your own. Whether its something within your grooming, your clothing, your accessories, or ? try to pick something you feel you have a knack for.
Everyone does. It is merely a matter of finding it.
One client of mine who had the always hated "male - red hair" felt doomed for so long until he finally realized he had a lot of red hair at 42 yrs old. Just knowing he had lots of hair when I deal with so many losing it, changed his whole perspective.
He became known for his sunglasses,had the best collection not expensive,just classic & memorable. He finally came out of his shell a year ago and women were always ready to talk to him about his latest pair of sunglasses he picked up at a Swap meet or EBay.
Paying attention to style - clothes - music - grooming will do nothing but help 
